I keep reading about our rich Indian culture and the values that our parents try to instill in us since childhood. I find people openly saying that this is something the west lacks. I was wondering how true this is. Is it really true that the parents in the west do not wish their childrens best?? Don't they wish that their children grow up to be good citizens whom the country be proud of?? Don't they wish their children to stay with them, as our parents do? Don't they wish that their daughters-in-law be the ideal bahu and the sons-in-law the best. Don't they wish that all their sons stay together under one roof??
Now what do I say for:
I haven't been staying at home with my family for the past two years. Same is the case with my bro. And many of my friends. My friend isn't staying with her in-laws coz both her hubby and herself have their jobs here. When her in-laws come her, only for a week, not longer, she cannot take many days off. Neither her in-laws nor her own parents stay long at her place for reasons that all of us understand. The old couple have no one but each other to spend time with. They find it better to do the same at a place where they have spent most of their life together. And an opportunity to work abroad, even for a couple of months, is something no one would want to deny. If the stay gets prolonged, sometimes you cannot help it.
Now do you say we too are getting to be like the west?? Do you suggest I could earn the same salary staying with my parents at a place where there are no jobs related to my Qualification.
Our families have gone nuclear like the west. We have come to realize that we can make big decisions of our lives. Like whom to marry. Though we still seek our parents consent on every decision of ours, big or small.
What is it that I oversee that makes us different from the west, of which we are very proud?
5 comments:
Nothing superior at all about us. We have our traditions. They have their own. But we have stupid politicians which they dont. And guys like these will go to any extent to break shops on Valentine days and stuff like that...
I don't agree about the politicians. The west have their own share of stupidity :).
Well there re many of us who still want to live like they did 20 years back...but there is some amount of trade off as the current job situation demands it.But in totality I feel our values and culture are strongly ingrained in us and in the time of need one can only hope they will surface.
As much as I have seen here in US in these 10 months..
The parents do care about their children and their future a lot...
But here after marraige, they assume that kids make their own living.... Over here when they heard that we stay with parents even after marraige, they were quite amazed...
They also have a lot of family values...
There is lot of difference in both the cultures... but once we get see both.. .we will respect both of them equally....
And yes, if culture here was to be same as India.. there wouldnt be smthing which we would be calling Indian :)
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