there it features yet again on my blog. I’ve written on or about it, in various forms, repetitively. And lo here I’m with it again.
The responses to this post of mine got me thinking again. Rambler says “nothing is worth giving up your love...” How very true… until, not you but your parents are against the idea of you marrying someone you are in love with. Now is the time to define which is your love… your parents or this new person in your life… who makes you feel that you are the best person on earth. That this world is the best place to be in. That there can be nothing better than love.
Now how do I compare the love for my parents to the love for this wonderful person I’ve met and come to love?? Can I even do such a thing as compare love?? I guess not. So how do I go about it??
A, hurt in love, friend of mine once said, “You girls don’t understand that now you’ll need to fight with your parents may be for 2 years or so. And then you can live your life happily. But you refuse to understand this and make both our lives unbearable.” I did not know how to confront that. I know that what he is saying is apt. Yet it is not acceptable. “How can you hurt someone you love??” was my first thought. But don’t I love this guy too. And I am hurting him by not accepting his proposal, ain’t I??
I know my parents have gone through a lot of trouble bringing me up, giving me the life I have now. I know this person I claim I’m in love with will take utmost care to keep me happy for the rest of my life. And yet… I cannot think of treading my parent’s wishes/desires though they are not in tandem with my heart. But I dare do the hide my tears and pain to see them happy momentarily.
“Take the risk!what is life if we remain on safe shores all the time.” says lipstick. There are some risks that can hurt you superficially. They can be worth the pain. But how about those that leave a deep scar in someone else’s heart?? I see I’m ultimately gonna push the dagger through someone’s heart. But how do I decide whose heart it should be. Mine, the one I love or my parents??
5 comments:
"Take the risk!what is life if we remain on safe shores all the time. There will be positives and negatives in everything!"- You did not completely quote me ...
and like I said every decision is like a risk in your case the risk is hurting someone and pleasing someone else...hence nothing in life comes without some good and some bad.
So you see you have really misquoted me and made it look like something I never meant...
Anyways
Its all about iterpretations
Lipstick: I’m so sorry if you felt I misquoted you. Like you said it is indeed about interpretations.
It is but obvious that everything in life has it’s share of positive and negatives. I was trying to weigh out my options when I quoted you. I’ve put-forth a question, is there a way I can decide as to which option has less of the negatives?
Apologies again, but I never questioned/judged your statement.
One seeks and gets the best things for his life, another tells that the best has always come to his life.
To me both are the same.
The third person is like a frog in a well. He never realizes that he is the king of that well. And he always think that there is a bigger and better well somewhere out there.
Learn to cut the dangling strings. All one would do is trip and fall with them, time and again.
Why not wait - Lets the sands of time smoothen the ruffled feathers?!?!
ah now when parents are involved..we have two loved ones in the picture.. now thats complicated :)
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