It was my parents 25th anniversary yesterday. And they were very upset, courtesy moa. I rejected a marriage proposal. Couldn’t have done anything worse than this as a gift to my parents. My parents and relatives were all very keen about this. Even the guy and his family was showing a lot of interest. To an extent that I was finding it hard to take in their interest. I'm not the kind who's fast when relationships are concerned. I want my space and time. I sit back and observe you so that if I like you I mould myself in a way that is pleasing to both of us. But I try not to let you know of this. After some time If I think I like you then I see to it that you like me as well. But if I don't then it isn't very difficult to displease someone.
A couple of posts earlier I had posted eight points about how my man should be. All the eight points were positive. But today I'm posting some points, my expectations, things that I'd not want to see in my man.
> I have mentioned earlier, I need time and space. I need you to make the first move but not rush things. You are new to me. So let me know you better. I'm like a turtle in my shell. Don't keep scaring me in by taking hasty steps.
> Do not take liberty with me. Not for at least a couple of weeks. That scares me by giving a feeling that you are trying to possess me. And I don’t like that.
> I do not like intrusion in my life. You have all your life to intrude into mine. Gimme time, to sink into your family and you. Gradually you'll know how much liberty I shall give you.
> Talk to me. But gimme some time for me as well. Don't expect me to be interested in your talks all the time. I might at times be preoccupied with some other thoughts. And this is until I feel that you are the one.
> No authoritative attitude please. I just can't stand being bossed around. Not until I accept you completely. The only man to have the liberty to command over me is my Dad. I have never listened to anyone other than him. If you wish to command over me, then let’s go our separate ways. We are definitely not made for each other.
> No blackmailing please. Neither emotional nor any other kind. That shall put me off for ever. I turn harder than stone when tried with blackmails. Don't keep that as even the last resort.
Wish I had a better way to tell this. I’ve upset my parents terribly. But I’m at peace. All the disturbance that was until I gave a firm 'No' has vanished. I am so mean, being happy at upsetting others. And the others being none other than my loving parents.
Am I turning into a sadist??
5 comments:
this doesnt mean u r a saddist... Ur parents must be sad dear... but surely, if u r not happy in a relationship they will not be happy... Try telling them what u feel... Give them a chance to understand u :)
Lucky my parents are very understanding. Things are fine now.
You gotta do what you gotta do. Better make brave decisions at the right time then repent later. Brave Woman , you are !!!
What sadist? Next time take a printout of what you like to see in him and what you dont and ask him to fill it ;-) Evaluate him on the basis of it!
Good Idea Neel. But life doesn't work based on checklists :)
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